“Show me some respect, I’m the man!!”
“I’ll see between the two of us who’s the man!!”
And it goes on……..
When a man keeps saying these to his woman, then there’s a lacuna somewhere.
Where have some men lost it?
Being the head is never imposed, rather it’s attained.
When a woman is in the presence of a man whom she truly regards as a man, respect oozes out from every pore of her being.
(I’m a woman, so I know).
The respect flows without effort and pretence.
Women know when they are in control and when the man is in control.
(Yes, we’re that smart!)
There are various reasons why women control some men, and there are types of men that are “controllable.”
(May my man not read this article, AMEN!! )
1)WHEN A MAN LOVES BLINDLY
A woman’s control is usually subtle and more effective when a man is head over heals in love.
When love is misappropriated, a woman rules.
In this situation, a woman uses emotional manipulation to get whatever she wants.
2)WHEN YOU CAN’T MAINTAIN YOUR WIFE.
This includes solving her needs.
And these needs varies according to individuals.
—Other provisions according to existing circumstances.
But when the reverse is the case, the man loses control, and respect.
You can’t expect the neck to do the work of a head and still maintain the characteristics of a neck!!!
3)WHEN YOUR WOMAN IS ABOVE YOU IN STATUS.
It’s always a problem if the woman is above a man intellectually, financially, socially, etc.
There will always be friction because they’ll operate on different wavelengths.
There are certain things the woman will do which the man may not understand.
And the woman will always adopt a patronising approach in dealing with the husband. Sometimes, the man may not know it.
Most men are intimidated by a woman of higher status, but when they get involved with them, their ego kicks in and when they try to suppress them, it boomerangs.
This type of man avoids confrontations.
He rather shies away and remains indifferent in the face obvious misdemeanours by his woman.
He would rather compromise than take a stand on issues.
This type of man is more liable to invite third party to play advocacy role in their misunderstanding.
5)INFERIORITY COMPLEX AND IDOLIZING
When a woman is higher than the man in everything and is an achiever, the man most times feels inferior to the woman.
Sometimes, this leads to the man idolizing the woman.
The woman can do no wrong.
He turns a blind eye to her vices.
Never gently rebukes or corrects her.
He inadvertently turns to her slave.
These are men who can be easily tricked, controlled and ruled.
Sometimes, some foolish women who are lucky to gain access into their man’s heart, capitalize on it to control the man.
A predictable man is like a T.V with channels.
The woman has the remote.
She knows which channel to tune to.
When to switch it on and off.
And funny enough, the T.V will always obey.
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